Girls Who Elevate Our Spirit
Listen up, friends. We’ve been thinking about dating all wrong for far too long. It’s not about finding a girl who fits perfectly into our predetermined mold—it’s about discovering a girl who’s gonna push us to become the best version of ourselves. In 2025, we’re redefining what it means to date “above our league” when it comes to finding incredible girls. We’re talking about girls who aren’t just potential partners, but spiritual companions who’ll challenge us to grow in ways we never imagined.
But here’s the real talk: how do you know you’re not dating a girl who’s holding you back? Red flags aren’t just about bad behavior—they’re about spiritual and personal stagnation. A girl who’s constantly dragging you down instead of lifting you up is a non-starter. Watch for these warning signs: Does she mock your dreams? Discourage your personal growth? Refuse to engage in meaningful conversations? These are signs you’re dating someone who doesn’t understand the divine potential within you. A truly exceptional girl will be curious about your passions, challenge your perspectives, and inspire you to dig deeper into your faith and personal development.
Let’s get real for a moment. We’re looking for girls who’ll challenge us to grow, but who’ll also play into our inner child—that part of us that still believes in magic, in dreams, in the kind of love that transforms. We want girls who can dive deep into theological discussions one moment, and build a pillow fort with us the next. We’re talking about connections that aren’t just romantic, but spiritual—partnerships that reflect the multifaceted nature of God’s love. Proverbs 27:17 reminds us that “As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another.” That’s the kind of girl we’re after—someone who’ll be our partner in growth, our companion in faith.
Pro tip: A girl worth your time will have her own dreams, her own relationship with God, and her own path of personal growth. She won’t be threatened by your ambitions but will actively support and challenge them. Look for girls who read, who think deeply, who have passions beyond social media and surface-level conversations. A stupid girl will try to dim your light; an incredible girl will help you shine brighter.
We’re not just talking to our straight brothers—this goes for our entire community. Whether you’re looking for girls as a straight man or from the LGBT community, the call is the same: seek out relationships with girls that elevate you. We’re looking for girls who’ll stand beside us, challenge our thinking, expand our worldview, and love us exactly as we are while simultaneously inspiring us to become more. It’s about finding a girl who understands that growth isn’t about changing who you are, but about becoming more authentically yourself.
This isn’t about settling or playing games. It’s about recognizing that the right relationship isn’t about finding the perfect girl, but about finding a girl who’s perfectly imperfect and willing to grow alongside you. We’re calling out to those brave souls who are ready to date with intention, to love with purpose, and to build connections with girls that aren’t just about romance, but about mutual spiritual and personal evolution.
Practical wisdom: Pay attention to how she treats others. Does she show compassion? Is she kind to service workers? Does she have a heart that reflects Christ’s love? These are the markers of a girl who’s not just intelligent, but spiritually mature. In 2025, we’re dating differently—we’re seeking girls who’ll be our partners in purpose, our companions in passion, and our allies in becoming more of who we were always meant to be.
Remember, friends, the right girl won’t complete you—she’ll complement you. She’ll see the potential God has planted within you and help you water those seeds of possibility. We’re not looking for a perfect relationship, but a purposeful one. A connection that grows, challenges, and transforms us into the men God is calling us to be.
-Deck